How often do we hear: «I love her, but she just takes my feelings ...» or «I have it all ready, but it ...»?

Case Studies. For Advice to a woman with claims against her husband. «I am trying to do for him, all domestic responsibilities assumed. I understand that he has a difficult job. I accept that he has little time for family. I even donated his favorite business career to be with him. And in return I get a tantrum «I'm tired», «I want to drink beer with friends and relax», «I went hunting» ... I am tired and I do not know what to do next »...

That's the case that all of our «I am ready», «I sacrifice», «I try to» not only provide well-deserved result, but sometimes cause irritation and lack of friends and loved ones. And let us think that kind of «well-deserved result», which we both expect? We firmly believe that if we pay a lot, it must receive the same in return.

In general, what is love? If you move away from many of the usual definitions, the love - it self-denial, with the donation, rather than sacrifice not deservedly not claim to love yourself. Love - it is not trade and accounting report - spent much should get much (emotion, power, time, attention, love) ...

Just what was the case with my client: a woman believed that if so many sacrifice something in return, it should receive the love and gratitude to her husband. But even I.S. Turgenev said that «all lead to feelings of love but thanks». Gratitude - is the duty of a person for something. And who likes to be liable?

During the woman realized that there is a requirement love, but that is simply self-denial. And she had the power to change the attitude towards oneself and life. And, of course, worked universal law: the more preferred, the more jobs. And her life has come and understanding and recognition, and, most importantly, fun ways. It is a feeling of joy - the main indicator of what you give, not sacrifice. All that we are happy to pay - attention, tenderness, free time, and even wealth, not takes us, but instead gives us the strength, energy, positive emotions and success. In the end, we choose to sacrifice themselves or to give us, or not to require, instead of waiting for love or not.

All of us tend to make mistakes, and sometimes we can take the desire to be loved for love, but if we honestly imagine this is recognized, there is an opportunity to change everything and make your life and relationships daily feast.